The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k is a book that instantly rose to the ranks of bestsellers across the globe. It’s not hard to see why – who wouldn’t want to let go of all the baggage in their lives and learn to just stop giving a f**k? Author Sarah Knight gave up her job in corporate publishing and now spends her time between the Dominican Republic and NYC as a freelancer. The dream, right? But not an easy one to make happen by any means. The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k is the first step in decluttering your life so you can stop buying things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like.
It’s perhaps worth noting from the start that it’s actually quite easy to stop giving a f**k about the things you really don’t care about in life. The issue is doing it without losing your friends, family and job along the way. That’s where Sarah Knight’s book comes in handy. It guides the way to leading a f**-free existence without pissing off everyone you know in life.
A key message throughout her book is that you need to be respectful of other people. You may despise children and not care that your colleague Megan’s sister has just had her third baby, but telling her that is rude and won’t do you any favours in the office. This doesn’t mean you should lie though – it’s all about learning to navigate your way through life, making yourself as happy and stress-free as possible, without raining all over Megan’s parade. Sarah Knight’s method can help you do this in the most delicate way possible.
I’m in two minds about The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k. On the one hand, I found that a lot of the advice given wasn’t applicable to me. But on the other, I found that all that was applicable was very useful. I feel this book would be most useful for those who are in their mid-late twenties and above because a lot of the life scenarios described here were not applicable to me as a 22 year old. Obviously everybody’s life moves at a different pace so it’s not necessarily an age thing but I personally don’t have a lot of weddings, baby showers or bosses’ birthday parties to avoid. Nor do I think it would be appropriate for me at my future corporate job to just not turn up to a meeting, no matter how useless it is and how good I am at my job.
What is applicable to all, no matter what stage of life you’re at, is how to deal with family, friends, things, other people’s opinions and more. It’s really refreshing to know that if you’re feeling bogged down by all these “obligations” in your life that you really have no interest in, there is a way forward. You can compromise, you can improve your quality of life. This book provides numerous examples of common situations we face everyday and how you can choose to handle them if it’s something you’d really rather avoid.
I love that Sarah Knight’s advice always comes in levels; for beginners, intermediates and experts. You’re free to take on as much or as little of her advice as you want, which is great because we can’t all be extreme no f**k givers like her all at once! As I said above, I found that some of the advice given was not entirely applicable to me (mostly the “Work” section), but on the whole it made me feel a whole lot lighter. It reminded me that it’s ok to say no. It’s ok not to like everything that those around you like. The key message is: you do you! And funnily enough, that’s the name of Sarah Knight’s latest book, which I’ll be talking about soon.