Last night, I was treated to a preview film screening of Amy Schumer’s new film: I Feel Pretty. Amy herself was supposed to attend and give the introduction but unfortunately she was ill and couldn’t fly *sad face*. I wasn’t sure what to expect from this film, thinking it would either be hilarious or cringe beyond belief. Thankfully, it was the former.
I Feel Pretty is the story of Renee Bennett, who has never had the body of a model and has deep insecurities about her looks. One day, at Soul Cycle (where else?), she falls off her spin bike, bashes her head and wakes up with a completely new attitude. She looks in the mirror and believes herself to be beautiful. Except, to us, the viewers, we don’t see anything different. Renee looks just as she did before, but in her mind, her wildest dreams have come true, and she’s the hottest girl on Earth.
Her life is turned completely upside down and she makes huge strides in her career and personal life thanks to her newfound confidence. Of course, it doesn’t last forever, but Renee sure learns a thing or too along the way.
I came out of the film screening feeling empowered, feeling pretty, for the first time in a while. In all honesty, I’ve be feeling a little crappy about myself recently and this was just the kick up the backside I needed. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I’ve been hiding behind my books for the past few months, but no more! The sad thing is that every single one of this film’s life lessons is a cliché. But they’re 10 clichés that I’d forgotten to implement in my own life that I sorely needed to. I hope this film will make you feel the same! So here are ten life lessons I learnt Feel Pretty.
The scales don’t matter
The message at the front and foremost of the empowering new film, I Feel Pretty, is that the scales don’t matter. Don’t let that little (or large!) number define who you are or your self-worth. It is so easy to get caught up in the images splashed all over our screens and magazines of hot models, fitness Instagrammers and more. I swear to God, if I see another image of Kayla Itsines’ flatpack and twiggy legs, I think I might explode.
I think looking after your body is super important, but mostly because of the effect that exercise and self-care have on your mind.
Attitude is everything
I stole this one from the film poster but attitude really is everything. If you wake up in the morning believing that you’re going to have a really great day, you up your chances of actually having a great day by 1000%. Fact. Ok not really but you know when you’re feeling down but you force yourself to go out and smile and laugh and then you actually start to feel a little better? Well, remember that feeling and apply it every day, it’ll make the world of difference to you and those around you!
It’s all relative
There’s a very funny scene when the gorgeous Emily Ratajkowski’s character sits crying in the bathroom. She’s just been dumped and confesses her insecurities to the flabbergasted Renee. She can’t believe that someone as beautiful as her could possibly be dumped! The lesson to be learned here is that it’s all relative. Even if you attained the perfect body you’ve been dreaming of, you’ll find something to be insecure about. Looking perfect on the outside doesn’t make you perfect on the inside, so why not skip all that crap and just go straight to just loving you for you?
If you see someone cute and want to ask them out on a date – DO IT! Don’t be the guy that sits next to a girl for four years of high school, never saying a word, who proceeds to spend the next ten years stalking her on Facebook hoping she’ll still be single at the next reunion. Newsflash! She won’t be, she’ll be happily married and won’t even remember your name. Don’t wait for opportunities to come to you, create opportunities for yourself by taking life by the horns.
p.s. That scenario actually what happened to a guy in I Feel Pretty.
Go the extra mile
Ok so maybe Renee took it a little too far when she pre-bought her boss’ brother’s favourite drink for the office just in case he happened to drop by, but it’s these small gestures that can really make an impact on someone’s day and make you all the more memorable. In this case, an incredibly handsome guy turns his head towards a girl he ordinarily wouldn’t have given the time of day, but you can see the universal applicability of this life lesson.
Be the best version of yourself
Renee always puts her best foot forwards and encourages those around her to do the same. She manages to completely flabbergast a shy gentleman in the dry cleaners with her self-confidence. She’s so unapologetically Renee that he falls completely in love with her because, as well as know, confidence is sexy. She may have taken it too far when she was caught checking herself out in the mirror when she was on top but hey.
If you have something of value to say, say it. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a room full of people who are more senior that you or more beautiful than you, your opinion is valid. If you’ve got something to bring to the table, especially when you happen to know quite a lot about something that perhaps those around you don’t, don’t be afraid to throw your two cents – diversity of opinion should be encouraged. Renee manages to make a roomful of skinny beauty addicts, who look down on her, come to respect her because she finds her place in their world and rocks it.
Take the compliment
If you’ve ever thought that you weren’t good enough for someone or deserving of something, then this one’s for you. If someone in your life tells you you’re beautiful, smart and funny, believe them. Why the heck would they bother telling you these things if they weren’t true? Whether they’re your friend, boyfriend (or mother), presumably this person loves and trusts you, so you should do the same.
You are what you make of yourself
You aren’t what people say you are, you are what you make of yourself. Renee is continuously judged by her looks and the ‘beautiful’ women in her office all look down on her. But her persistent cheer and hard work gradually starts to win them over as they realise that she’s pretty frickin’ awesome irrespective of the body she came in.
Be your own cheerleader
Lastly, and I think possibly most importantly, be your own cheerleader. Don’t wait for somebody else to come and do it! If you’ve done something to be proud of, shout about it and give yourself a big pat on the back. It doesn’t matter if it’s the fact that you managed to drag your butt out of bed this morning or if you’ve landed your dream job, celebrate the big and the small.
NB. There’s a fine line between “being your own cheerleader” and being arrogant. Don’t be an arsehole. 🙃
Are you ready to vomit yet? Cliché cliché cliché! There’s my list of 10 life lessons I learnt from I Feel Pretty and as clichéd as they are, people undoubtedly still fall down the worm hole of obsessing over Insta likes and bikini bods, especially in the lead up to summer. So take a leaf out of Amy Schumer’s book and tell yourself “I feel pretty” and remember that attitude is everything.
p.s. speaking of being your own cheerleader, I’ve been shortlisted for lifestyle influencer of the year in the Blogosphere Magazine awards, which is pretty cray! If you like my blog and social content, I’d be so grateful if you took a second to give me a vote here. 😘(Voting now shut)